Truth be told most of the time its for worse. When everything changes, and all you guys did when you started dating are now memories, you are even tempted to leave in the name of finding that which intrigues you, they all will come to this at some point, if you know what I mean. Maybe it’s your colliding schedules or the lack of the same affection you guys once shared. its not any-ones fault, bear that in mind, always.
It’s even crazier when all these happens when you are still here in campus where you met and have been dating for two years and it’s boring already.
Yes you love him and you cant wait to say I do but everything else seems boring, what do we do? what will happen when the kids arrive?
Do not get cold feet yet, come grace this event and learn how to spice up your relationship. learn how to keep both of you smiling and happy. Use these skills for a lifetime.
listen, learn and grow in your relationship.
Salome: What is your name and what do you do?
Samson: My name is Samson Ng’ang’a,I work at a Voluntary Counseling and Testing center in Thika.I am a counselor for the youth.
Salome: What is the procedure when a youth comes to the VCT?
Samson:First we have ask them some set of questions.Then explain to you them the procedure of testing where we taking a sample of their blood.As we advice them on better ways of living.Finally we give them the results and advice them depending on the results.
Salome:What advice would you give those in campus and are in relationships?
Samson:My advice is to abstain from sex,but for this generation just remember to use protection or contraceptives always to be safe.Be careful of the person you choose and get tested before getting into sexual activities.
Salome:So is it safe to be in a relationship while in campus?
Samson:I think it safe to be in a relationship.Some marriages start from campus relationships.
Salome:Thank you very much for your time.
Samson:You are most welcome.
I believe couples in campus can have a strong relationship that could lead to marriage.But mostly we want to enjoy our time as young age in campus therefore prefer not to get into serious relationships.
Some relationships begin as a joke and end up being serious and matures to marriage.This is a good thing for those lucky people who get this.You get to grow together and build your own empire together.You also get to learn the person fully,what they like and hate and also understand them better.
For these young couples I know that they go through a lot.Both good and bad.Just like the couple in the video.The couples Harrises and Duncansons tell us of their journey.How they have survived together for long.What lesson they have learnt in their young relationship.
This is a great chance for us all to learn from them one or two things.Especially those in relationships.You never know a joke may turn to something serious.
Remember you are the only one who knows what is best for you,don’t rush into a relationship or force love where there isn’t. Be patient for yours will come at its own time .
I adore ,love, care, respect and stay with you because I want to give you with something special that few have.My heart it is, treasure that is fragile .
It is not easy to find that person to give this treasure and once you do,you easily give in.It feels comforting and secure to have him or her.But then why do they break our hearts after all this?don’t they appreciate all that give?what more do they want?what did I do to deserve this?At times it’s very hard to answer these questions and it mostly drains our energy and time.But there is a way to deal with these heartbreaks.
First, to accept that you are in pain.He or she has destroyed something special and it’s not easy to accept this fact.But it has happened and it’s only best to accept in order to heal.
Second is changing your ways and thoughts of how you used to do certain things.This helps forget the moments and memories you have.
Final is to believe that you can find love again and be open to find another.This easily wipes the gone memories and makes you feel happy again.
Most of us have been raised watching soap operas with all the drama that happens there.We end up searching to know what this love is,how it feels to love and who is the right person for us.In campus with the freedom we have we get into relationships that end up being dramatic, weird, awkward and all sort of things.
Maybe these soap operas make us live in an unrealistic world where we think in relationships we can do anything and get away with it like cheating.We need to change this mentality, go back to our old fashion sweet relationships.We act as adults, where couples do have feelings for each other, they trust one another and remain faithful. Couples argue and at the end they come up with a solution instead of using abusive words and violence.
Some of the few ways that can help us maintain good relationships are :
communicating frequently to one another
have an agreement as to why you are to together example for growth.
learning to respect one another and
be ready to accept the different natures of everyone if you cant change them.